Answered by Shaykh Yūsuf Badāt Question: A few months back I had a very bad fight with my wife. I sometimes lose control of my mind, and say and do things which I do not intend to do, or say. During these times of rage, I hit myself to the extent that the next day…
Answered by Shaykh Yūsuf Badāt Question: Is it permissible for the walī (guardian) of the bride to also be a witness of 1) her wakālah (representation)? 2) the actual nikāḥ (marriage)? Also, can the wakīl (representative) and the witness be the same person, or does it have to be separate? Answer: بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمنِ الرَّحِيْم…
Answered by Shaykh Yūsuf Badāt Question: If a man’s mother was rubbing medicine on his arm and he was very scared of ḥurmat al-musāhra (incest) taking place. He made sure to control himself but felt a feeling in his private part. He is not sure if there was slight erection or not. Is Ḥurmat Al-Muṣāharah…
Answered by Shaykh Yūsuf Badāt Question: My husband has never supported me financially since he was forced to marry me. Since the birth of our children, he stopped giving me the little amount of money that he was forced to give by his mother. Now, even though I have started working part time, that money…
Answered by Shaykh Yūsuf Badāt Question: Can you please tell me if a civil divorce in a Canadian or European court, in front of a non-Muslim judge is a valid islamic divorce as well? The husband gave his consent verbally in front of the judge, lawyer and wife. The judge asked him if he agrees…
Answered by Shaykh Yūsuf Badāt Question: Do the religious activities (example: vows, divorces, oaths, etc.), which require verbal utterance of a person, come into effect by mere movement of tongue without using the lips? Even if one uses the lips along with the tongue, but does not make an audible word, would his utterance come…
Answered by Shaykh Yūsuf Badāt Question: My husband came home drunk and had an argument at night with me. He started hitting me and said he divorces me 3 times. Am I islamicaly divorced? The next morning, he was fine and acted like no divorce happened. Answer: بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمنِ الرَّحِيْم In the name of…
Answered by Shaykh Yūsuf Badāt Question: Is it permissible for me to post quotes on social media while remaining anonymous during my ‘iddah after khula? Answer: بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمنِ الرَّحِيْم In the name of Allāh, Most Gracious, Most Merciful. Jazāk Allāh Khayr/ Thank you for contacting Mathābah. Yes, it would be islamicaly permissible for you,…
Answered by Shaykh Yūsuf Badāt Question: When having intercourse with my husband, images of my children come into my head which make me sick and I try to get them out of my mind. These thoughts put me off. Recently, I read about ḥurmat al-muṣāharah rules. Since then I get misgivings about my kids. This…
Answered by Shaykh Yūsuf Badāt Question: I have a question on behalf of my sister in-law. She has been separated from her husband for over a year, and has not been with him. He gave her talāq (divorce) 3 weeks ago and now she is in ‘iddah. During her separation, she met someone and made…