Answered by Shaykh Yūsuf Badāt
Question:
How can I convince my siblings to love me? There is deep-rooted hatred due to family misunderstandings.
Answer:
Jazāk Allāh Khayr/ Thank you for your question.
Your concern to join and strengthen family ties is praiseworthy and a prophetic directive.
We suggest you approach your siblings with kindness and gentleness, letting them know how you feel in establishing a loving relationship with them. Let them know that your heart is clean and you forgive them for any mishaps. Let them know that you would like to forget about the past and start a fresh relationship. Clarify any misunderstandings that would be a hindrance to strengthening the bonds. Do not discuss things of the past that would lead to endless argumentation.
Give them presents and gifts. Speak good about them to others amongst the family and also relatives. Make supplications to Allāh for help and facilitation cementing the family bonds.
“Maintain relations with those who cut you off, give to those who deprive you, and pardon those who wrong you.” (Musnad Aḥmad)
And Allāh Knows Best
