Answered by Shaykh Yūsuf Badāt
Question:
A lady that is to get married tomorrow wants to put the condition for her permission if her husband to be wants a second wife while married to her. The to-be officiant refused to perform the Nikāḥ (marriage). What should be done?
Answer:
بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمنِ الرَّحِيْم
In the name of God, Most Gracious, Most Merciful.
Jazāk Allāh Khayr/ Thank you for contacting Mathabah Institute.
In Islam, a couple can agree to certain conditions for their marriage. In modern day, this is known as a prenup. There is no Islamic objection in agreeing to acceptable conditions or signing a prenup. The couple in question can always find another imam to officiate their ceremony. – (See: Aḥkām Al-Qur’ān, Volume 3, Page 285) [1]
It is worthy to note that in many countries, such as Canada, polygamy is prohibited by law, therefore, the officiant may have refused to perform the marriage due to legalities.
“O you who have believed, fulfill [all] contracts.” – (Qur’ān 5:1) [2]
“The Prophet (peace and blessings upon him) said, “The condition worthier to be fulfilled by you is the one by which you made the sexuality [of your wife] lawful [for you].” – (See: Abū Dāwūd 2139) [3]
Only Allāh knows best.
[1] وَكَذَلِكَ كُلُّ شَرْطٍ شَرَطَهُ إنْسَانٌ عَلَى نَفْسِهِ فِي شَيْءٍ يَفْعَلُهُ فِي الْمُسْتَقْبَلِ فَهُوَ عَقْدٌ وَكَذَلِكَ النُّذُورُ وَإِيجَابُ الْقُرَبِ وَمَا جَرَى مَجْرَى ذَلِكَ – احكام القرآن
وعن عبدالرحمن بن غنم، قال: كنت مع عمر حيث تصل ركبتي ركبته، فجاءه رجل، فقال: يا أمير المؤمنين، تزوجت هذه وشرطت لها دارها، وأني أجمع لأمري أو لشأني أن أنتقل إلى أرض كذا وكذا، فقال له: بشرطها، فقال الرجل: هلك الرجال إذ لا تشاء امرأة أن تطلق زوجها إلا طلقت، فقال عمر: المؤمنون على شروطهم عند مقاطع حقوقهم؛ أخرجه سعيد بن منصور، وفي لفظ: فقال عمر: إن مقاطع الحقوق عند الشروط ولها ما اشترطت
[2] يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا أَوْفُوا بِالْعُقُودِ – المائدة ١
[3] إِنَّ أَحَقَّ الشُّرُوطِ أَنْ تُوفُوا بِهِ مَا اسْتَحْلَلْتُمْ بِهِ الْفُرُوجَ – رواه أبو داؤد ٢١٣٩
